I am not going to get into a disagreement with you BUT to be completely genuinely gender neutral IMHO is impossible unless you cut yourself off from traditional society.



You may have done all of the obvious things BUT on a practical level unless you and your wife never wore gender specific clothes your children will automatically have picked up on gender roles.



Did you wear skirts or dresses very often . Who drove the car etc etc



Who had the larger portions of food at mealtimes etc.



To be gender neutral in your parenting would IMHO require such a level of awareness and changes in behaviour that it would make it difficult to function in modern soceity.



If you lived on a desert island you may have a chance

Oh yes, I know.



But I am attempting to keep this thread both within the confines of the AUP – and a sensible discussion of the subjects concerned.



However, in terms of the sort of fetish you mean, my own opinion is that fetishes are learned, in as much as they develop out of an experience or possibly even in reaction to an experience.

[url=http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-21788238Saw this on the BBC website and thought of the Sin Bin...[/url

I was just about to post that.





It's succinct, straightforward and really clear.



And backs up everything I said in the OP.

Very good article that. The continuum is undoubtedly the case, as it is with almost every human attribute.



The only (slightly comic) aside is that if the only requirement for a person to be sent to a particular jail is using an alternative gender name and claiming that they always wanted to be of the opposite sex, then jails would be mixed sex in very short order.

"Mr Kray would now like to be known as Ronata and seeks permission to have his collection of clothes and wigs moved to his cell..."