From my observation of your games this season I think nearly all of your players could use a little of Ryan's aggression.
BTW, the OP has the incidents completely the wrong way around. Bailey's hit on Mary was perfectly legal and hard. Graham was then brought on and before the scrum had even packed down the referee had to pull him to one side to calm him down. Graham then spent the rest of the next ten minutes sledging Bailey.
Bailey actually went out of his way to run AT Graham during all this. Graham didn't run at Bailey once.
The penalty for dropping on an un-tackled Wilkin was never a penalty. Bailey's simply dropped on an untackled player hard. For fans who cried about Voluntary tackles so hard and so long I thought you might applaud his actions. When Bentham was explaining the penalty to Bailey his words were "You went in with too much force".
Granted, that's not something your players will have heard this year but nor is it an infringement of the rules.
The Roby Incident just shows how much of a grip on reality Bailey's detractors have lost. He was attempting to pull a player to the floor by his shirt. Perfectly legal and legitimate. He has every right to do that and when the players shirt starts to tear do you expect him to peel of the tackle? Will Roby Stop his forward movement? Get a grip.
graham was wild after the maury tackle. Wild. When he settled down to behaving and playing rugby he showed what he can do. Yet because its' Bailey the facts don't spoil your polarised rants.
Its' quite funny.