ExiledFromHull wrote: but i dont think any organisation makes it public knowledge that they are consulting the recently bereaved family on how a memorial is conducted - its just a given fact that they do!
On the last few occasions where "noise" has been requested there has been a direct comment about it.
I am not saying it hasn't been this time, just observing that it's a few posters on the mb that are stating such.
I am not a pessimist, I am realistic, this is a discussion forum, hence we are discussing the ways in which we find it appropriate to pay respects.