Sal Paradise wrote::CLAP:
Could not agree more - having followed my two lads from U11 to open age what you describe is exactly what I used to experience every week. The abuse these kids took was appalling especially from parents of their own side and how they ever found anyone willing to ref the game was beyond me.
This situation gets worse the better the player. The coaches on the whole do their best to develop skills and a love for the game.
Yep, I think there are 2 "schools" of youth coaches at the moment, there are those who do try to develop skills but struggle against parents expectations/abuse and a system which does not encourage skills development and doesn't punish those clubs with an "aggressive atmosphere". Unfortunately too often the people who have the responsibility of punishing clubs are too friendly with the coaches/officials of those clubs and so don't punish them.
Then there is, sadly, a "school" of coach who really isn't bothered about developing players skills and are more bothered about winning next week and basically building their own little empire to appeal to their own ego.
The abuse, foul language & generally intimidating atmosphere from people on the sidelines , and the violence & intimidation on the pitch that appears to be encouraged (or at least not seriously discouraged) at many amateur clubs at all age groups is a big problem for RL, it puts off so many kids from either taking up the game or staying with it.
It's why I switched to playing Union after a while despite being from a thoroughly League family & background, it was a far better atmosphere.